posted by admin on Apr 17
my boyfriend invited me to a wedding out of state , couple months ago . we live in New York and the wedding was in Florida . what happened was that he told me he needed help paying for the car rental , I was like ok , I can help you pay half of it ..( he was complaining it was too much money , paying for the airlines tickets and hotel) , anyhow , we went to the wedding and came back and I told him I was going to pay him but didn’t tell him when , because I am not working as many hours and not making a lot of money .. he has asked me for the money twice already .. I am going to pay him , but I just have been wondering if this is a right thing for him to be doing , I know we agreed and everything but him asking for the money makes me feel like he is a little cheap and money hungry .. we are from different cultures and countries and I am sure we don;t think the same way . in my country if a man invites me somewhere like that , he would be taking care of everything , because he invited me .. now , if it was a vacation that we both decided that is another story. also , a man from my country and culture would wait for me to pay him back , would not be asking me to pay .. I just want to see different points of view , I might be wrong ..what do you guys think of this ?
Originally posted 2009-05-28 09:09:39.
May 28th, 2009 at 9:09 am
Hello
You are right…. he is from a diferent culture, but is his culture so you can not change that.
This is very embarrasing because you have the big problem of money payback, and the problem of his presure fo his money back.
I don´t kow what do you think about the future with him, but maybe this is a very intresting demositration of the life bisides him and wath you can spected each other.
One sugeestion is maybe you can talk with him and ask for some time to pay back the money as you can get it. As soon as you finish pay back all his money you can chose if he is the man or you deserve another way of mind according yours.
Hugs and Kind regards.